After a spiritually and emotionally challenging semester I’m glad to say I’m back and ready to continue this journey that is my blog! I type this as I’m currently in Madrid currently taking study abroad courses, something that I’ve been speaking into existence since a couple of months ago and still can’t believe is actually happening. It’s already been one week and while I miss New York I’m extremely grateful for everyone who helped me get to this position: I wouldn’t be here without your help!
I haven’t had the time to update Wavy Girls as I prepared for finals and this program, but my routine has not been the same since I have not been able to share such powerful stories! I have really missed writing about strong and influential women of color and can attest to the fact that your stories add a little spring to my step. Because I love hearing about intelligent and inspirational girls and their personal experiences so much I’d like to announce a new feature that’s been added on the blog (which is slowly but surely being worked on). I’m really exited to say that you can now give a shout-out to someone in your life who you think embodies the definition of a Wavy Girl and should be spotlighted for the world to see! All you have to do is go to the Wavy Girls homepage, click on the Shoutout link on the top-right corner, and fill out the submission form. It’s really that simple to recognize someone for all the good deeds they do for their community, and I’m sure they’d appreciate the fact that their work is being noticed.
While I believe that announcement is the highlight of this blog post I’d also like to take a moment to share some of the wisdom I’ve learned and some I keep having to remind myself about every day.
1. Nourish your mind and body
While this may seem obvious I cannot stress enough how often I have to remind myself to put my physical and mental health first before anything else. Be kind to yourself and know when you need to take a break. Be comfortable with the fact that it is okay to take care of yourself first, even if that means putting an urgent task to the side for a moment. There is no single assignment, errand, or business that is more important than your well-being. You are a human, not a robot.
2. Be honest with yourself
This applies to every single facet of your life, from academia to relationships. Think hard before you take on an additional responsibility when you’re already struggling to find a balance in your life, or before you allow a toxic person back into your life. Remember the last time you made a mistake and learn from it, do not repeat it again. It will hurt but you must face the facts and be real with yourself. Will you really be happy if you do that? Do you know sometime down the road you will regret doing it?
3. Never take no for an answer
This became my new motto this semester, and living by this not only got me to Spain but it allowed me to start Ritmo at NYU (the first Latin dance team) and to get further ahead in my academics both inside and out of the classroom. There’s a saying that goes “If you want something, work for it. If you don’t get it, work harder,” and it couldn’t be any more true. Whatever it is that you’re trying to achieve, make it happen. Be consistent and talk to the right people. Talking to people is the key! If you have to persuade others to believe in your vision, sell it like you mean it.
4. … but accept when something is not for you.
I’ve talked about rejection on here before and how while it can be demoralizing it is an essential part of the process. You cannot succeed if you do not fail, but if you do not succeed that does not mean you failed. If you know you fought a good fight and tried your absolute best but were still rejected, accept the fact that it was probably not for you but know that there is something better on the horizon. Not everything is meant for you, and that’s not bad. In fact when something better comes along you’ll look back and be grateful your vision wasn’t clouded by that one rejection.
This post is all over the place, but I cannot wait to get back to sharing consistent stories and advice as I become used to this new environment in Spain. Do not forget to take a look at the new feature, and give a shout-out to someone who you know deserves it! Until next time!